"But I've known him/her forever...well sometimes forever ends quicker than usual"

This has been a topic that has been running in and out of my brain for a
while now. People place so much on these two things in terms of
friendship. Like I said anything I say is my opinion if you don't agree
please feel free to comment. Ok, so here is my thing I don't base my
friendship off of time spent together. Meaning that if I have known you
for 10 years and someone else for 5 years you don't automatically have
seniority in my book. Example, what if you have known someone for 5
years, but they take a turn for the worse. They begin taking drugs (now
this doesn't affect you head on, but because it's your friend you feel
some way about it), then they start disappearing, and so does your stuff
eventually. Are you going to say "Well he/she is my friend I have to
remain a friend because I've known them for 10 years etc." Hell no!
You're going to say call me when you want to try to get your life
together, and I'll be here for you.
Now that's an extreme example, but just take a look at your
relationships in general. I tend to take the level approach, meaning I
take the "what have you done in my life to change me." All my friends
are on different levels some are higher than others, but they are all my
friends. No one is based off time spent because I have a friend that
I've known for five years, but I know that she's not as close to me as
some of my friends that I've known for only two.
Friendship is not time spent it is dependent on levels. It is based off
of what you bring to the table, and how you influence my life in a
positive manner. I'm not going stay friends with someone that brings me
down all the time because they are unhappy with their lives. I don't
care if I've known them for 80 years; I love me more.
The problem is that people base their foundation of a friendship more or
less based on convenience. Convenience means to come in handy or to be
expedient. You become used to the fact that this person is your "friend"
without truly remembering what a friend really is. And if I base it off
of time then I have plenty of friends. Friends are not those who bail on
you for the next best dude/girl in their lives only to come back when it
doesn't work. Friends are ride or die always no matter what is going on.
This is not to say if you are being destructive they will help you
continue with your path. Instead they will pull you out of it.
Look ya'll all I'm trying to say is that  a lot of people are not
realizing what the word friend really means let alone what emotions come
along with it. So take this time to re-evaluate those "friends." Easy
way of doing this is to weed out your Facebook/Myspace, and truly just
realize that not everyone on there is a friend they are something like
an associate. Be comfortable in that and you will relieve a lot of
problems that you face. Especially when it comes to your personal
because the more associates know the less private your life becomes. Ok
ladies and gents that's my advice for this blog. At the end of the day
the word "friend" is being used a little too much for comfort. Like I
said any points or comments please feel free write. Until next time have
deep reflections and thoughts.
Much Love,
DePoetress